Boyfriend gets injured after choosing a friend on her trip

A woman asked the Redit community what she thought after her boyfriend suddenly decided to go to Amsterdam with his friend instead of her friend.

The couple has been together for two years, and about halfway through their time, they have been dreaming of going to the Netherlands together.

“We've been talking about going to Amsterdam together, and it's our 'dream trip',” she explained in the post. The plan is finally affordable next summer, but everything changed when the boyfriend received an invitation from his friend to go next month.

He came to her with the news and asked her how she felt about it, but the way he was stuck. “He asked me how I felt, but he also said he would rather go with them and he and I could go again.”

For her, it wasn't about whether they wanted the trip in the end, but about the person he wanted to go through first.

The woman admitted to hearing that he prioritized his friend over her pain. “I feel so painful to hear this because we’ve been planning this because we feel like I’ll feel the best even if we’re together.”

She didn't forbid him, but she was honest with her emotions. “I told him I was hurt, but it was his choice, and if he would rather go with his friends first, I might have done the same thing.” But when she turned the table, her boyfriend was upset, which she called “a little hypocritical.”

After the conversation, he began to go back. “Now he's back and says he knows I'll get hurt and he won't go,” she shared. But his solution was to put the responsibility on her shoulders by asking her what she should tell her friends.

Her decision was accused of feeling uncomfortable for her. “He even suggested that I wouldn’t go, which made me uncomfortable because I never told him he couldn’t do it, I just told him that he hurt my feelings.” However, what was really wandering was that he wanted to prioritize his friends first and if she didn’t speak, it would disappear.

Traveling to Amsterdam is not the only tension in their relationship. She added that the couple did have a smaller holiday this year, but his attitude was overshadowed.

“We did have a short, cheap holiday this year in terms of context, but he spent most of his time talking about how he wanted to come back with friends.”

Hearing this over and over again put her in his place. “It made me feel like he was constantly comparing me to them, like they were his mind first.” With all this pile up, she wondered if she was wrong with the injury. “Has Aita been hurt by this?” she asked Redit.

In the comments, some point out that the situation is immature. One asked, “How old are you two? To me, that sounds immature. One won't cancel the other?” She answered honestly, “24. I know the whole thing is a little stupid, maybe I'm too sensitive to it. I've been feeling very upset lately, it's the cherry on top.”

Others stressed that his trip with friends might change the experiences that will take place later. “Amsterdam is not a big city. If he was going to do all the sightseeing with his friends, what would be left? It was particularly difficult when she remembered him telling her about their plans.

She explained that his friends were not only planning to attend the party, although that was a big part of it. “He said they were mainly interested in the weed cafe, but did mention that they were going to the cat cabinet, which he knew I was very excited about.” For her, this particular detail was hard to ignore.

The Cat Cabinet is one of the attractions she most looks forward to seeing together, and now he wants to do it without her. This small choice is symbolic of the bigger problem in their relationship: he is willing to bring his friend to her.

Even if he finally decided not to go, she couldn't shake the feeling of his first instinct revealing his priorities. In her words, “For me, he wanted to prioritize going with my friends first and if I don’t speak, that would do that.”